The New Normal

I’ve got a thousand incredible things happening to me now. Yet…the past few months I’ve been feeling uncomfortable, as if I’m shedding an old skin that doesn’t quite fit. “New patterns, new patterns”, I keep repeating to myself, “This is good! This is healthy! If you’re feeling anxious, it’s because you’re on the verge of change!”

This past Christmas, my younger brother said to me sadly, “It doesn’t even feel like the holidays. Is it always going to be like this now?” You know what he means. While the kids have all grown up and moved away, the traditions have diminished and faded out with them. New traditions with new family begins to emerge, but it takes a while for these new things to feel like old traditions.

On the eve of my 30th birthday, I sobbed into my pillow. This might not seem surprising, as it’s extremely common for women to “turn 29” multiple times, but I was actually really excited for what was to come in my thirties. Yet, I couldn’t help but mourn the loss of my twenties and all of the things I wished I had accomplished during that decade. And then – once that was over – I felt fierce.

I recently met an incredible man who is all of the things I’ve ever asked for – witty, handsome, intelligent, romantic, adventurous AND committed, thoughtful, hardworking, respectful, handy, emotionally intelligent, masculine, introspective, amusing, responsible (except for earlier this week when all of my banana pudding that I accidentally left in his fridge mysteriously vanished…lol), good listener, practical, easy going, close with his family, wants to get married, wants to have children, and insanely laugh-until-you-cry funny. Meeting him has got me all kinds of excited for what could be.  He makes me feel calm about moving forward, not scared or nervous. I trust him. I knowww – this is kind of a big deal for me *squeal* If this is really what I’ve been waiting for, it’s time to kiss goodbye every man of my past and any other that could be a man of my future.  If this is really what I’ve been waiting for, it’s time to slow down the momentum of “Are we there yet?” and coast into “It’s happening now!” All this joy has just got me reflecting on where I am now and respecting what’s got me here.

Work has always been the one thing that has been consistent in my life. Whenever the rest of my life was incredibly amazing or incredibly unbearable, my job has kept me sane. Since our company is growing, I’ve had the wonderful opportunity to take on more exciting projects. With that comes new challenges, some of which aren’t as as easily hurtled as I would have hoped. I know that getting out of your comfort zone means that you’ll make mistakes, and be stressed out, and be critical of yourself. And I am all of those things. But, I’m trying to be nicer to myself while I’m learning, more constructively critical of myself while I’m improving, excited while I’m experiencing the opportunity to learn, and grateful while having a knowledgable team surrounding me. But, yeah, its uncomfortable while I’m figuring out how I fit in here.

When I moved into my beautiful Southern home, I had 2 neighbors with apartments in the same house. One had been here for several years and we bonded over our creative fields and the removal of rogue lizards in my apartment. The other moved in a week after me, and we met when I invited him into my bedroom…to dispose of a cockroach at 1am. These were the first people that shared my space when I moved in to this new town, and they both moved out this week. I don’t know them well enough to keep in touch, but I knew them well enough to feel a sort of emptiness when they left.

My family just experienced the loss of a loved one, so that has been weighing heavy on my heart. The feeling I have knowing that people I love are hurting is…hollow. I just talked to my cousin today and she said it would “take a while before everyone is comfortable with the new normal.” And I couldn’t have said it better.

That’s exactly what this feeling is – getting comfortable with the new normal. It’s big, and exciting, and sad, and scary, and fun, and uncertain, and exhilarating, and reflective, and melancholy, and new, and all of those things. Yet, we have to embrace it, but not too tightly, because as soon as we get used to our new skin, we’ll shed it again.

 

New Pom Pom Bedding!

Hey Hey Hey!

A mid-week post?! I know…crazy.

Remember when I was craving some pom-pom bedding and I posted about it here? Well, I DID actually give into my craving. Even better, I didn’t have to settle on any of the options I talked about. I got exactly what I wanted, which was this Smoofy pom-pom duvet cover AND matching shams for under $40.00! Thank you, Amazon 🙂

And here it is in my room!

Photoshop Fun: Charleston Bedroom

Hope you enjoyed my Living Room reveal!

Now, I want to show you my Bedroom. First, I want to share some overall photos, so you can get a better idea of how the room looks!


How do you feel about those green walls?? And the tiny sink in the corner, because there’s no sink in the bathroom 😳 But the fireplace is SO cozy! So, let’s see the BEFORE and AFTER.

I’m thinking of having the walls painted bright white, along with the trim – and I guess the fireplace too (still figuring that out) and painting the upper part of the walls above the picture rail in a soft blush. All of the furniture is my own, with the addition of the same long white linen drapery that I used in the Living Room. The ceilings are super tall and my current curtains are too short! I’ll replace my bedding with a fresh, white duvet or quilt, and crisp shams. See that little gold pineapple mirror? I just snagged it on sale from Michael’s a few weeks ago. And it’s currently on sale again for $11.99! I thought it was so perfect for Charleston, but still looks classy, not kitschy.

I’m thinking of using Velcro to add a beige linen skirt under the sink to hide a basket with my straighteners, curling irons, and brushes, since I’ll be getting ready in my bedroom. You’ll understand once I share my bathroom reveal…

Thanks for staying on for the tour! Stay tuned for more soon!

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Photoshop Fun: Charleston Living Room

Hi Ya’ll!

I KNOW you’ve been patiently waiting to see some BEFORE & AFTERS. Am I right? Well, today is your lucky day!

Check out the Living Room BEFORE. Not loving the 2 tone walls or the yellowy tile on the fireplace. It just needs some love!Heck yasss!! Now that’s an AFTER!

I “painted” the walls a soft griege – actual Sherwin Williams color to be determined! I freshened up all of the trim and used black paint over the yellow tile to make the firebox appear larger. Then I just added my own furniture and a *few* new pieces 🙂

I hope you feel just as sophisticated as I feel when I come home!

Cha-Cha-Cha-nging to Cha-rleston

Hello Friends!

I know it’s been SO long since I’ve posted, and you know it’s always because I’m out enjoying life. But…

I’m FINALLY moving to Charleston! This incredible photo I took on my last visit is *basically* going to be my view EVERY DAY!

Last year, my friend, Abbey, gave me a pocket journal. When I visited on March 21, 2017, I brought it with me and wrote things like “I can’t think of anywhere else I’d rather be at any time and if I’m being truly honest with myself, then I need to be here”, “It’s the most magical place on earth”, “I just love it and I don’t want to go home” You know, real subtle proclamations of love. 😂 So, a year and a day later, when I found myself in Charleston again, I opened the journal and read my words. Everything just clicked. I was having such an amazing time, I extended my trip, and decided I needed to do it fo’ realz.

Once the decision was made, I started to look for a place. Back in April, I found a cute little studio in an amazing location, with a fireplace, parking, and even a sweet entry that I could make into an office, since I’ll be working from home for a few months. But, it was over-budget. While I was negotiating pricing, it got leased out from under me, and I was so disappointed. How am I ever going to find anything that compare to that?! *Insert Universe laughing*

And then –

I found a beautiful gem of an apartment…a huge one bedroom…in an old mansion…with 2 fireplaces…10 foot ceilings…transom windows…wood inlaid floors…1 block from the water…right on budget…and I’m allowed to make renovations (ahhh!) The cherry on top was signing my lease on my 32nd birthday (double ahhh!!) I’m not going to lie, I might actually be the luckiest woman in the entire world.

The past 4 years have been extremely transformational and if this is my “consolation” for the challenges I’ve faced, then I’ll take it – gladly!

I’ll be photoshopping some of the rooms, since “rough” is a good word to describe my new home’s current state 😂 I’m SO excited to share the Before and Afters with you. So keep your eyes open for a Sneak Peek in the next couple of days!

❤ The Huntress

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