Trust Yourself

This past Thursday night, I had the incredible opportunity to attend a conference called TogetherLive. The event featured powerful women speakers, like Love Warrior author, Glennon Doyle (who is just the absolute cutest in-person #obsessed), her wife, Former US Soccer Team Olympian, Abby Wambach (I know, I might have been the ONLY person that didn’t know they were married…), and New York Times bestselling author, Luvvie Ajayi, who you probably know, if you read her blog reviews of Scandal episodes. Click here, if you want to see the full line-up of boss ladies who killed it!

The whole tour focused on “How to live your love story”. This could mean so many things to different people. Mostly, how to live YOUR truth. There were so many incredible words I heard, but I wanted to talk about Glennon Doyle’s words specifically:

“Stop taking other people’s advice. Stop asking people directions to a place they’ve never been.”

Wow. Let that sink in for a minute.

Everyone has well-meaning friends and family who tell you what they would do if they were you. But, they’re NOT you. It’s not their path. It’s not their story. No one, except for YOU can figure out where you need to go, based on where you’ve been, and what you most want for yourself.

Interestingly, I went to see my *GIRL*, Abraham Hicks, a couple weeks ago (incredible!) and one of the questions was from a woman who said she was having a difficult time making decisions as an adult, because her parent’s made all of her decision for her as a child. In true Abe fashion, the solution was:

“Stop listening to other people’s advice. Learn to trust your inner GPS system. That’s why it’s there – to guide YOU.”

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To top it off, my 2017 Word of the Year is TRUST. Usually, it takes me a couple of months to really settle in with the word. And this year was exceptionally difficult. But here I am, in November, and I’m finally starting to get it.

And literally, right now, like, real time, as in, I’m writing this and had to go back and edit, because it’s that crazy – I’m watching the new Leah Remini: Scientology and the Aftermath episode, and they keep talking about trust, trust, trust.

I’m not going to lie , “trust” has been the hardest word to implement. Just today, I questioned my own judgement when it came to trusting others. How did I misread the signs? But, I also felt proud of myself for handling the confrontation AND the disappointment clearly, honestly, and true to me. I didn’t ask anyone for advice. I just said what I felt and you know what? It helped get peace out of the situation much quicker. What used to feel like mountains are now barely speed bumps. BAM! There’s the lesson 🙂

Trust yo’selves xoxo

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The Huntress Loves Warby Parker

Hello Lovelies!

Today, I have the awesome chance to talk about Warby Parker and their new Archive eyeglasses and sunglasses collection that just launched this fall!

They’ve got tons of tortoise shell #alltherage. Y’all KNOW I’m a fan. Don’t judge my duck face…this photo is circa 2014.

My work wife, Elise, who also happens to be a killer architect/asset manager/chef/friend just got a snazzy pair of round “architect” frames. It got me thinking…why don’t I own a pair of real “interior designer” specs. And then I saw Carraway. Not only are they tortoise, but the bottom frame is NAVY!! I know, I can’t make this stuff up!

In the same, “not trying to hard (don’t tell anyone it took me 2 hours to get ready)” look, Webster is purrfect. It definitely has a vintage feel, but still modern, since it’s pairing the heavy top frame with the delicate metal on the bottom.


Still thinking about Carraway in Navy? Maybe Dewey will help ease the ache. She comes with a MERLOT accent. And a cat eye. Me-ow!

And if you’re not on the round train, but are totally digging the super cool vintage look, then Lowell is for you. 


And although not part of the new Archive collection, these beauties just HAD to be mentioned! Hellllllo, Louise!Tortoise AND a pop of Violet?! Stoppppp! I’m just loving the shape too, a modern cat eye.

I’m also really a fan of Cora, she still has a color shot in Crystal Plum, but the chunky frame is so fun! I just KNOW I would be known as The Girl in the Tortoise Shell Specs if I wore these…*dream*

And then there’s the Girl Next Door, Laurel, in all of her two-toned Tea Rose Fade fabulousness.

I’m really feeling the color-blocking here. It’s just the right amount of fun and serious. And this shape looks a little more round.

Well, I know the contenders for my Top 5! Oh wait…I didn’t even GET to the sunglasses yet! Good news: a few of the glasses styles come as sunglasses! Woop Woop.

Doesn’t Carraway look great in black? 

Webster also turns heads in black with a little hint of tortoise in the lower frames. 

And I can’t really wrap up this post without featuring Fleta. Literally. No. Words.

 

Which ones are YOU choosing for yourself? If you’re still having trouble, just post some photos to the ‘Gram or Twitter, using the hashtag #WarbyHomeTryOn, and the WP team can comment on the styles they think suit you the best!

 

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Why, Though?

I write a lot about women’s fashion and things that are on trend. I’m sure there’s lots of “fashionable” styles that men aren’t into. Like, maybe high-waisted mom jeans

Or extra large, shapeless, 80’s print sweaters

But what about men’s fashion? What about the most horrible look for even the most attractive man?

Yes, I’m talking about the Bucket Hat:With so many options, this begs the question, “Why? Why? Why?”

There’s the Regular Hat:

The Backwards Hat:

The incredibly irresistible Side Hat (my friend, Sarah, and I had a whole different college experience because the discovery of the side hat):

NEW YORK, NY – MARCH 05: Channing Tatum visits BET’s “106 & Park” at BET Studios on March 5, 2012 in New York City. (Photo by Astrid Stawiarz/Getty Images)

And, brace yourselves, The Backwards Side Hat *swoon*:

So, why the Bucket Hat? This literally takes your attractiveness factor and decreases it by 100%. Let me repeat this again:

The Bucket Hat decreases your attractiveness factor by 100%

So, gentlemen, please keep this in mind when selecting your accessories. Unless you’re trying to repulse us, then go for it.

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On The Hunt: White Jeans and a Winter Coat

What a bind I’m in…It’s September and I’m still looking for a pair of white jeans. My desire for them makes me want to throw all fashion rules out the window and rock them with any and all fall tops. There. I’ve said it.

Jeans are typically difficult to find, but white ones are even harder. The normal fit I like usually ends up looking too tight in white. You can see the pockets through them, and it ends up being all wrong.

I’m loving the ripped look. I’ve always wanted to wear distressed denim at work. I think I’ve gotten away with it a few times, but the rule is that they must be worn with a super nice top. And definitely some kind of heel.

But, these plain skinnies are nice too! All images via Pinterest (obviously) I found this pair on Pinterest too. Cheap! I just have to try them on first…I know, I know, I need to find a nicer brand that fits just as well as my go-to Indigo Rein and Blue Spice skinnies. Unfortunately, my search results weren’t yielding anything from those either! 😔

Would it be crazy to wear white jeans with a fabulous winter coat? I don’t think it is.

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Which brings me to my next desire: An olive green, extra long, belted puffer coat. Last March, I was at Macy’s Backstage and every last one of the winter coats was on MAJOR clearance. There were literally hundreds of coats, but only one olive green coat, extra long, belted, puffer…and in my size.

“You don’t need another olive green coat”, I said.

“You only walk across the parking lot to work”, I said.

“You’re too short to have an extra long coat”, I said.

So, I walked away without it. And am bawling my eyes out about it still.
Now that I have several city blocks I have to walk to get to my car, I’m really anticipating the wind tunnels, so I want something to cover my legs. And who can resist a good olive green?? Definitely not me. Of course, now I can’t find what I want. And, of course, I never took a photo of the tag or the coat…Here are some top contenders:

L.L. Bean Ultrawarm Coat, Long in Spruce for $269.00

MICHAEL by Michael Kors, Faux-Fur-Trim Belted Down Puffer Coat in Truffle for $244.99 (although just a few days ago it was $196…)

MICHAEL by Michael Kors, Faux-Fur-Trim Down Coat in Dark Moss for $244.99


MICHAEL by Michael Kors, Faux-Fur-Trim Down Puffer Coat in Flannel for $244.99

Eddie Bauer, Women’s Lodge Down Duffle Coat in Sprig for $202.30

What’s a girl to do?!

 

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A Year in Fashion

Wow. I can’t believe that my last clothes post included an outfit from OCTOBER 2016…so much has changed! And a few new additions have made their way into my closet. But the old classics remain 🙂

Feast yo eyes.Dress: Target

Coral Espadrilles: Steve Madden

I just LOVE this 2 pattern dress that my friend, Megan, bought me for my birthday!

Light Blue Bell-Sleeve Top: Banana Republic

Slides: Steve Madden

Dress: Ann Taylor Factory
Laser Cut Eyelet Top: Banana Republic Dress: TeezeMe via Macy’s

I’m so glad I’ve been doing squats, cause this dress was wayyyy s.h.o.r.t.e.r. than I remember…
Dress: Forever21

Shoes: Nine West, “Apple Eye” Booties

This Forever21 stretchy dress has been in my closet for YEARS, but it’s just a classic. It can be dressed up or down and never seems like I’m trying too hard (even if it does take me hours to get ready…)

Top: Banana Republic Skirt: Banana Republic Factory Bathing Suit: Ted Baker via Nordstom

Ummm, can we talk about this suit?! Ted Baker was kind of a splurge, but I REALLY wanted something fab, for this future vacay that the Universe is bringing to me, and it was the last one in my size. After a long day of shopping, I had to take it as a sign 🙂 My facial expression in this photo is clearly not an accurate representation of how happy I was to find this gem!

Dress: Milly, Penelope Gown via Neiman Marcus

Oh.My.Godessss. Back in June, I had an urge to try on super fancy dresses, just for the fun of it. Once I found this one, I almost bought it. But, then I saw the price tag…$725. Yikes.

Dress: Kohl’s Peplum Top: Ann Taylor Factory

Jeans: Blue Spice via TJ Maxx

I can’t help it, I just love Blue Spice and Indigo Rein jeans. They fit in the waist, thighs, and calves AND they’re a perfect ankle length for us petite girls! I know they’re so cheap, but that’s the goal: cute on a budget! Dress: Romeo + Juliet via TJ MaxxNautical Ruffle Skirt: H&M via Greene Street Consignment Pink Dress: Banana Republic Factory

Geeze, I feel like this is an ad for Banana stores! I should be compensated somehow!White Blazer: Dynamite

Blouse: Ann Taylor Factory

So.in.love with that blazer!Mesh Dress: Banana Republic via TJ MaxxStriped Dress: Monteau via Marshalls Hot Pink Dress: Charlotte Russe Polka-Dotted Ruffle Blouse: Target White Top: Can you guess?? Banana Republic haha Purple Swing Top: Piko

Crystal Necklace: Francesca’s

Black Suede Peep-Toed Booties: Lucky via Lord & Taylor, similar Gingham Peplum Top: H&M Peach Bare Shoulder Blouse: Shinestar vice TJ Maxx

Ripped Denim: Indigo Rein via Marshalls

Flower Sandals: BCBGeneration via MarshallsPaisley Peplum Blouse: Banana Republic
Floral Peplum Bouse: Sienna SKy via Marshalls Orange Tank: Target

Floral Applique Yoga Pants: Aerie Ruffle Blouse: Target

Printed Peplum Bouse: LOFT Romper: Marshalls, there’s no tag, but here’s the RN #116696

Isn’t this the cutest thing EVER? I’m so in love with this summer purchase, I wish I’d been able to wear it more than once this summer…it’s making me excited for next summer already! Purple Swing Tank: Lucy & Laurel via Marshalls

Wide Pants: Joe via KohlsBlush Skin Dress: Joe & Elle via Marshalls

Not gonna lie, I barely ate anything during the day, because I knew I was wearing this at night (insert laugh/cry emoji)
Striped Flare Skirt: Pins & Needles via Greene Street Consignment  Off-the-Shoulder Top: ExpressBlush Ruffle Blouse: Ivanka Trump (ahhh, I know!) via Marshalls
Structured White Blouse: Banana Republic

Polka Dotted Pants: Ann Taylor Hot Pink Blouse: J Crew via Green Street Consignment Juniper Romper: Lavender Fields via TJ Maxx

Denim Jacket: love FIRE via TJ Maxx

I wasn’t sure about this romper, but there was something so playful and casual about it that I just loved. It’s perfect for a lounging night where you still want to look and feel whimsical Floral Print Blouse: Finn & Grace via Marshalls

Dark Denim: Blue Spice via Marshalls

Loved this printed blouse! It’s hard to tell, but it’s off-the-shoulder with a little spaghetti strap!
Kimono Jacket: Target…KIDS section.

I know, I know, if it isn’t bad enough that I’m 31 and buy all of my clothes from TJ Maxx, I have now succumbed to the children’s section of a chain store…good news is that my very fashionable boss complimented me on it. Score!

 

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The Universe is Always Answering

This is sort of a Part 2 to my last post.

I’ve made it into a game (of sorts), where I ask a question or state an intention, and see how the Universe can answer me.

At the beginning of summer, Iron Man and I decided to go separate ways. The loss of him in my life was felt in so many ways. His wit, tattooed skin, and general admiration were just a few of the things I missed most.

Well, wouldn’t you know, I suddenly found myself surrounded by people who were making me laugh. Not with stupid humor, but with the intellectual banter that I was craving. I was laughing again.

I noticed that on a daily basis, at least a third of the people I came in contact with, were covered in tattoos. I laughed again. When I added “tattooed with a beard” to my wishlist, and I began seeing several rough-looking tattooed, bearded men, I laughed even harder – realizing that I forgot to mention “handsome” in the requirements. I looked up at the sky and said, “I see what you did there…”

When it came to admiration, this one took me a little longer to recognize. Recently, I started receiving compliments from so many kind people. One in particular just told me in similar words, “I’m so glad we met through so-and-so, I always look forward to seeing you, and you always make me happy!” Wasn’t that, like, exactly what I’ve been wanting to hear? And sweet friends saying, “I miss you!” Who doesn’t want to hear that?! And then there’s my bestie’s 4-year-old, soon-to-be step-daughter. She calls me “Silly Sarah”, tells my best friend that she wants “Father Christmas” to bring me to her everyday, begs for me to stay and play longer, tells me that she loves me, and asks me deep questions, like ‘what makes your heart happy?’ Oh, yeah, AND she FaceTimes me on Sunday night, after we’ve just hung out on Friday. (Can I find her in the form of a 35-year old man??) I’ve asked for all of these things, and they just keep coming to me, in ways that the old me never would have seen.

By acknowledging the manifestations and offering gratitude, I’m always getting what I want, just not in the forms I’m expecting.

So, how has The Universe been answering you lately?

 

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Tuning in to the Manifestation Station

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I just experienced the best 2 weeks of manifestations. Ever. Everything I even silently wanted was raining down on me.

Needing entry to the sold out MacGregor-Mayweather fight? I met a bouncer on his way to work at one of the only nearby bars showing it, and he got me in!

Wanting a pair of rose gold sandals? My cousin just bought a pair that were mis-marked in size and fit me perfectly!

Craving more falafel from that restaurant you tried last week? A group dinner cancellation allowed me and my coworker to go there instead!

Wishing for a parking spot close to your apartment, so you can unload things you’ve been carting around for weeks? A car is pulling out of a spot directly in front of my door as I pull up!

Knowing you shouldn’t be buying a croissant with the last $5.oo in your wallet? They’re out of what you ordered, so they give you a warm baguette for free!

Determined to make a potentially emotional day into a fun and exciting evening? Your dinner date asks if you can do Wednesday, since that’s the only day they can do!

Stressed about paying rent, while your moving finances are still trying to balance out? An unexpected credit appears on your account, lowering your rent by over 1/2 this month!

I laughed in the shower. Like, really, really  laughed, and danced, and then danced some more, while yelling “Thank you! Thank you! Thank you, Universe! Thank you for bringing me these incredible gifts! I notice what you’re doing and I’m appreciating it!” Everything was falling into place.

But as soon as I acknowledged it, the proverbial clock struck midnight. The cold weather started seeping in, and I got a feeling that my luck was running out.

I was looking forward to this weekend, since after a couple months of week dates, I had finally been able to schedule some Saturday plans with someone who I liked getting to know. Unfortunately, they weren’t on the same page, and let me know. Damn. Wasn’t this supposed to be The Week of Everything?

But, I’m getting better at understanding the Universe, so I followed my calling to go to Church and listen to the message, which “happened” to be: Why Prayer Doesn’t Always Work (The Way You Think It Should).

The pastor asked,

“Have you ever wanted something, but you didn’t get it? Have you prayed to God asking for this ‘thing’ that you just had to have, but you never received it? Maybe it’s because it wasn’t what you really wanted. There’s what you want, and then there’s what you really want.

God already knows what you really want before you even ask. And He’s already on it.”

Holy shit.

I can see evidence of this concept in all of the things I’d been asking for lately. I truly wanted to see the fight, have the shoes, eat the falafel, snag the parking spot, go on a date, balance my bank account. So, why didn’t my desire to move this “relationship” thing forward come to fruition? Hmmm, it’s because what I really wanted was to feel loved, appreciated, wanted, special, and claimed. If it wasn’t happening, God and/or the Universe wasn’t going to let me spend one more second with someone who wasn’t on their way to being fully in love with me.

It also helped me realize a few things about myself:

I need to be just as committed to having my own needs met, as I am to meeting others needs. I know that I need to spend lots of time with my partner, that I need to hear confirmation of their adoration all the time, and that it has to be backed up with lots of physical affection. And that’s OK.

I need someone that is SO excited to be with me. I’ve often been described (by more than one person) as a puppy that’s been waiting all day for their playmate to come home. You must be chomping at the bit to love up on me emotionally, intellectually, and/or physically (preferably all three).

I need to feel included in my partner’s life. I’m not into the idea of waiting months to introduce/be introduced to family and friends. If I like you, and we’re vibing, I want to integrate you into my life as soon as possible. I need to experience the most realistic portrayal of what a life with you is like. That’s the only way I’ll know.

-You can’t be The One for Every One. I like to be liked, and I go out of my way to make my partners feel liked and special, but it’s no fault of mine, or them, if it doesn’t work out. I AM The One for Some One, so I’ll keep being myself and The One will appreciate it, and I will be exactly what he is looking for.

-I’m getting better at manifesting. I can absolutely see why certain people and situations have come into my life. If the vibe you’re transmitting is returning everything back to you at 100%, then I’m getting it right, 100% of the time! Apparently, that means I’m 90% certain about what I want. But, my manifestations are happening faster. And that’s something to be proud of!

After Church I went out to brunch (food post to follow!) and got chicken and waffles. It got me thinking about Charleston and how I was craving some real southern Banana Pudding from Page’s Okra Grille. I wondered, “Where could I get some banana pudding in Philly?” Later this afternoon, I went for a walk to soak in the fleeting summer sun, and I passed by the Sweet Life Bakery with a sign advertising, “Best Banana Pudding in Philadelphia”.

Oh, Universe, it’s so on.

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